“Why I Date Younger Women”

Ever feel like all the men your age are dating women half your age? OK. Maybe not half your age. But you get the idea. What makes men drawn to younger women? Here, some of the reasons—you might be surprised!

By Tobey Grumet

s it just about looks and our youth-centric culture? Well, that’s part of it. But you might be surprised that the real reasons go way beyond the physical. Men, it turns out, are a bit more complicated than that!

It’s about math…
“When you reach your late 30s, it’s not so much that dating a younger woman becomes more
“I’d say the allure is that younger women are less judgmental and less set in their ways.”
attractive, it’s just harder not to. The law of averages means that proportionately fewer women your age are single. But dating a woman in her 20s when you’re approaching 40 is also less demanding; you’re not faced with the same requirements to make a decision about your future. When your new girlfriend is 36, she expects you’re thinking about the next few years, not just the next few dates.”
—Colin, 38, Chicago, IL

Have it my way
“I’d say the allure is that younger women are less judgmental and less set in their ways. They don’t (yet) have a laundry list of what they want in a partner, in a career, in a life. Younger women are more user-friendly, I suppose. I think that kind of attitude appeals to thirty-something guys who want a relationship to really be on our terms.”
—Larry, 35, Edison, NJ

The fun patrol
“Honestly, younger women are sometimes more open to goofy good times than a women who has a few years on her. You can invite them to watch a midnight showing of Kung Fu Hustle without getting a skeptical look.”
—Mitchell, 39, Baltimore, MD

Check all baggage, please
“The appealing thing about younger women is their outlook on life. They tend to be untainted by experiences that have hardened older women. Like when a woman’s been lied to a lot after years of dating, she
“When a guy reaches a certain age, he worries he sees his youth and vitality wane.”
always thinks you’re lying to her. And that’s a turnoff. Younger women are less cynical and that’s a big draw.”
—Alan, 46 New York

Marriage-minded… not!
“What makes a younger woman a good catch? She’s not itching to have a ring on her finger. She’s interested in the here and now, in going out, in having fun. It may sound like a cliché, but it’s reality. I’m not anti-marriage, I’m just anti-agenda. A younger woman seems more willing to let things take their natural course.”
—Roger, 35, New York, NY

The age-defying principle
“When a guy reaches a certain age, he worries he sees his youth and vitality wane. A younger woman reaffirms for me that I’ve still got it going on.”
—Mike, 40, Orlando, FL

Let me lead…
“One advantage of dating a younger woman is that you can play ‘cruise director’—show her all your secret favorite places that she probably hasn’t experienced yet. They’re easier to impress and very willing to be escorted around. Women like it when you have a plan and it’s well-executed.”
—Bill, 33, New York, NY

Tobey Grumet is a freelance writer who frequently contributes to Happen magazine.
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