10 Opening Lines To Get You In the Dating Door

Have your favorite pick-up line... or looking for a new one? Here are 10 to add to your list.

By Susan Hayden

n restaurant terms, there are two kinds of people in the world: Those who love to try new dishes and those who order the same thing every time.

People in the latter category probably tend to fight change of any kind, finding warmth and security
Change is exciting and will always creep into your life—so accept it, even embrace it.
only in familiar surroundings. But change is exciting and always will creep into your life at some point, so it’s probably easiest just to accept it—even easier to embrace it.

A time for change
I’ve found that most of the positive forces in my life have resulted from a brave and entirely new leap I’ve taken, so needless to say, I’m a big fan of change.

You can make things happen in your life, even with small steps, like changing the way you introduce yourself. Even if you have a tried and true line that’s 95 percent effective, you never know what a new one will lead to. Here are 10 ideas to give you a fresh start—with a new foot in the dating door:

1. Start with a joke.
A good one. It’s a great icebreaker, and if it’s genuinely funny (though not dirty), you’ve got a good chance. If you get a laugh, go on to introduce yourself. If you don’t, get out—fast.

2. Make eye contact.
It’s no suprise that most men like attention, but they don’t necessarily want you to gawk or ogle to get it. Instead, show him that you’re genuinely interested and sincere when you tell him he “has incredible eyes.”

3. Ask his advice.
Solicit his opinion on something like what you should get your brother for his birthday (shows you think he has good taste) or if he knows how the so-and-so Supreme Court case turned out that day (shows you think he looks intelligent).

4. Open up online.
The next time you introduce yourself on, do it with a little flair. Start with a romantic or funny story or create a riddle with an answer that reveals something about yourself.

Subtlety has its place, but sometimes it is best to just go for it.
5. Act innocent.
If you want to introduce yourself without appearing overly suggestive, that’s exactly what you should say. “I’m really not trying to pick you up; I just wanted to know if you’ve ever been to such and such, because I know I’ve seen you there before, and I didn’t want you to think I was rude by not acknowledging you.”

6. Ask for the introduction.
If you’re feeling extra confident and thick-skinned, simply ask, “Would you like to meet me?”

7. Be charming.
Some one-liners can be effective — and irresistible — if done right. Try one of these (with a playful and confident approach): “If she doesn't show, I’ll be right over here” or “There you are! I've been looking all over for you.”

8. Be brave.
Subtlety has its place, but sometimes it is best to just go for it. After sizing up the situation and how much time you have to work with, you may just want to come right out and say, “I’m really attracted to you and would like to spend some time with you.”

9. Walk by, nod or wink and keep going.
If he’s interested, he’ll follow and introduce himself.

10. A novel idea.
Try this opener: “Hi, my name is…”

In addition to being a playwright, freelance writer Susan Hayden is a fiction writer and poet. Her gift book, The Enchanted Bath, is available now.
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