Top 10 Blind Date Do's And Don’ts

Big blind date coming up? Don’t be nervous; be prepared by keeping these do’s and don’ts in your back pocket.

By Susan Hayden

5 things to do
  1. Screen. Before you arrange to meet your date face-to-face, make sure you’ve screened him or her by telephone or through friends. You want to find out as much as you can to determine not only what kind of person your date is, but also whether you have enough in common even to get a conversation off the ground.
  2. Get a description. Blind dates are awkward enough; don’t make things harder by forgetting to ask how you’ll recognize one another. Get a good description of your date
    Keep things on neutral ground until you get to know this person.
    (height, hair color, clothes). You don’t want to start the date by introducing yourself to everyone who walks through the door.
  3. Agree to be honest. On our first blind date, my date (now my boyfriend of seven months) told me that honesty was very important to him; if either of us wanted to end the date at any point, we should just say so. I loved it that he was so forthright from the start.
  4. Keep things casual and public. A casual cafe can be more comfortable than a formal, upscale restaurant. No matter where you choose to spend your first date, though, stick to public places like a busy park or coffee shop.
  5. Offer to split the bill. At least make the offer. It shows that you’re considerate and like to keep things on equal terms.
5 things not to do
  1. Don't get picked up at your place. Keep things on neutral ground until you get to know this person. Meet at a mutually selected location so you’ll have your own transportation home.
  2. Don't reveal too much. Try to keep the really personal details to yourself — without coming off like a cold fish.
  3. Don't overdo it. If this is your soul mate and you want to get the relationship off to a good start, be yourself. Don’t try to over-impress with exaggerated tales of your life as a fashion photographer. Be modest. Be real.
  4. Don't forget to turn off your cell phone. Just good etiquette for any date. Besides, it will show off your courteous side.
  5. Don't lie. Back to the whole honesty thing. If you decide after the first handshake that you can’t spend another minute on this date, bail out as honestly as possible. In other words, don’t tell a blatantly bogus story about how you suddenly realized you have to pick up a friend from the airport. Instead try saying, “It’s been nice, but I really need to get home.” It may be obvious that you’re not all that interested, but at least your nose won’t grow!
Susan Hayden is a freelance writer who has written for Happen.
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